And So It Continues

Last week, I wrote a post about our celebration and finalization of our adoption to Little Miss S and Miss M. I posted on Mothers Fighting For Others because I wanted to start an open dialog about adoption. It was just a simple post about how happy we were as a family. It was about the opportunities that our daughters would now have because they are Americans. I can guess what their lives would have been like if they were not put up for adoption by their mothers. The cycle of poverty would have continued into their generation, if they had even survived to be adults. I know this because I know their history.

With that said, I was attacked. I was attacked by three women who knew nothing about me. They came onto the site not to help and not to educate. They came to attack. You can read the string of comments by clicking HERE. They could have come and commented in a way that we all could have learned from each other. They chose not to do it.

I'm done with the negativity that they have brought onto my site that was written to help and support those who cannot help themselves.

So you want to attack me? This is the place to do it.

Comments

[JWT]

So, in case anyone besides kim.kim wants to judge my attractiveness, I think it would be best to do that with a photo, not based on my writing. :)

Here you go:

http://tinyurl.com/2j65ws

[John T]

I hereby attack you! Grr! Scared Yet? Luv-J

[cupcakegirl]

I can't believe you have to defend your hopes and dreams for your daughters!...and on so many websites! I believe you did the best thing for those girls no matter who says otherwise. The hopes you posted, are just the same as any mother hopes for any of her children. Although I don't know you and your hubby on a personal level, I can tell from your writings that you are very loving and caring parents completely committed to doing the very best for your family.

Thank you for your beautiful writings, from two truely beautiful people..inside and out.

-cupcakegirl.

[Tisha]

Hey:0)

Just a hi to say you guys seem great. Love your enthusiasm and loving spirit. Don't worry about the negative comments; whenever you post positively about adoption, you will have posters who troll, looking for a positive website where they can dump negativity and get everyone upset. It's not their message that's offensive, rather it's their tone. Leave it; it's a game to them.

Many congratulations on your two additions; they sound wonderful! We have added a little boy from Guatemala to our family and we are blessed beyond measure by him.

Bless you for all you've done and are continuing to do. Got any ideas for how moms can help on a smaller scale? I'm pretty busy: three cats, two dogs, two jobs, two kids, a husband who's a lot LIKE a kid and a house to run, but I'd love to contribute in a way that I can juggle. Already donate to World Vision (three kids/month), which does great work, but maybe there's something else I could jump into?

Thanks!!

Tisha

[Ines]

Rocky - It was difficult to follow that comment thread and bow down to you for the way to addressed it. You are DA WOMAN! I just forwarded the posts to a dear friend of mine who adopted 2 children from Russia, who are growing to be the most beautiful and loving children. A lot of us may not know you in person....but you are truly a beautiful person and look up to you.

[onlyme]

Rocky,
I don't know you, nor do I know any of the people from the comments on your recent blog.

Yep, there are some angry people out there.

Birthmothers that were forced to give up their babies because of social stigma. No, these birthmothers didn't love their children enough to give them up for a better life. They were forced to do it, by parents, by lack of support, by life.

Adoptees who grew up in loving families, still somehow feeling different, feeling as if there is a hole to be filled. No matter how much a parent loves their child, this feeling doesn't go away. It is a hard thing to describe, but it is something that is inside each and every adoptee. It may be expressed as a heavy need, or it may seem like indifference. But be assured, it is there.

I wish you luck with your new children. I don't hate adoption, but I do believe many people in the triad have been poorly prepared for the affect adoption has on all members.

[robreed]

Please, please, please ignore these people -- ESPECIALLY KIM.KIM. She is so filled with sadness and anger at her own decisions that EVERYONE who adopts is a prime target UNLESS they kiss her ass.

As for the attractiveness issue, KIM.KIM is the LAST one to cast aspersions as to attractiveness...

There are some good points for adoption reform, but if you are merely going to be attacked, IGNORE THESE PEOPLE.

Blessings to you and to your family...

Rob

[Polly]

Rocky, congratulations on the blessed addition to your family, and thank you so much for the work you do with orphans around the world. Please ignore Kim.kim. She's a bitter nasty woman who uses her personal pain as a battering ram to attack and drag others down the dark abyss that used to be her soul. I pity her, and hope she gets help for her issues, although I doubt she will, since it seems she thrives on her pain and anger. Her head would probably explode if she ever were to let go of her darkness.

[HeadMutha]

It is about respect. It was and still is about how one deals and responds when you are attacked by someone online. I am just thrilled that something positive has come out of it.

[Karen]

I just came across your blog and site, I wish there were more people in the world like you! You and your family seem like wonderful people! Many Hugs

[Jordan Flipsyde]

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